Why emotions can give you everything you want in life
We go through life and we’re taught to collect a string of accolades. A good job, a nice partner, friends who we can clunk champagne glasses with… basically anything that makes people go “ooooohhhhh”.
The message we’re given is to “look sorted” not “be sorted.” The thing is, being sorted is so much more powerful than looking sorted.
The thoughts and emotions someone has that leads to them “being sorted” can literally make them millions, give them the most wonderful relationships and allow them to breeze through life like it’s a doddle.
What we’re never taught is that emotions are the way to get EVERYTHING you want in life.
They are your internal guidance system. They are unmet-need alarm bells. They surface so you can understand what you actually need.
However most people would much rather than suppress their real feelings, numb out or project onto others than come face to face with their true emotions. Pointing the finger, overworking, overspending and overeating are really good examples of typical avoidance tactics. We don’t even realise we’re doing it.
What happens if we deal with our emotions in the right way
If we were taught to pay care and attention to our emotions, we’d sit down and actually ask what each arising emotion means. We’d write down how we’re feeling, notice where the emotion sits in our body and unpick what we need in our life. It’s not rocket science but not many people do it.
The perhaps more interesting point is that the frequency we give off through our thoughts and emotions gets matched with what we receive.
High vibe, “I deserve this” thoughts = we get what we want
Anger, jealousy, resentment etc = we magnetise friction
In energetic terms, like attracts like and it really is that simple.
An example of how this may play out in life
A friend tells you her partner has whisked her off for a lavish birthday weekend full of roses and champagne. You smile and say “how lovely”, while underneath feeling jealous, angry, devastated that you’re not treated that way.
You’ll probably point the finger and say she’s showing off or you might force your partner to take you out or buy something new to compensate for feeling rubbish (without realising you’re doing it of course).
The actual shifted version of this scenario is different:
You name the emotion as jealousy
You feel it in your body
You listen to the unmet need underneath it
The emotions here might really be saying:
I need to feel special
I want to feel desired
I need some closeness
Those needs don’t necessarily have to come from a person but they do reveal what your cup is lacking.
If your needs were already fully met, the negative emotion wouldn’t arise because your cup would already be full.
Energetically, if you believed you were special, desired and deserved closeness to people, like would attract like and that’s exactly what you would receive.
So what’s stopping people from taking stock of their emotions?
95% of our actions are driven by our subconscious, meaning most of what we do is shaped by what we believe is:
safe for us
allowed for us
possible for us
If you struggle to go after what you want, it’s usually because an old experience taught you that desire equals danger. Your system is just trying to keep you safe.
So if deep down you believe:
my needs can’t be met
I’ll upset people if I get my own way
I don’t deserve to be treated like a queen
I can’t earn money doing what I find easy
I’ll never be a success,
you will unconsciously align with those beliefs and see the proof externally in:
half-hearted partners or friends
burnout
lack of respect
self-sabotage
lack of money
And even if we can see the pattern, acknowledging it can feel uncomfortable because it challenges an old survival story.
Just remember:
it’s not the feeling that’s blocking you, it’s the belief under the feeling; and
the feeling can reveal the block but the unblocking changes the outcome.
How emotions lead to everything you want in life
Most of us were taught that getting what we want, whether it be love, money, ease, clarity or purpose comes from:
hustling
being super busy
working really hard
over giving
But that’s not correct. You actually get what you want from:
alignment (doing what feels right for you)
truth (being authentically you instead of performing)
emotional clarity (knowing what fuels you and what drains you)
energetic congruence (mentally and emotionally feeling what it’s like to have exactly what you want).
We SHOULD be having life exactly as we want it!
When you ignore your emotions, everything inside you gets noisy and tangled. Your thoughts, reactions and decisions…they all start blending together and nothing feels clear.
But when you listen to your emotions, you create a clean internal signal that carries passion, focus, certainty and commitment. And life responds to that clarity instantly.
Noisy energy never gets you the life you want. Clear, aligned energy does.
Becoming a role model starts with you
A whole adult doesn’t beg for crumbs in any aspect of life.
If you listen to your emotions, you can put the steps in place to have the life that you want. You can then let the upgraded version of you become a role model for future generations.
Show your children that:
you can receive love without compromising
you can receive money without apologising
you can honour your emotions without guilt or making them someone else’s responsibility.
That is how you really become “sorted”. It’s freedom and it changes everything.
If you want help unblocking your emotions so that life, love, money and purpose feel easier to receive, book a discovery call with me. We’ll gently uncover what’s been holding you back and get you moving towards the life you actually want.
Love Abbie x