Why Do I Feel Stuck in Life (Even When It Looks Good on Paper)?
You’ve got the house, the kids, the car and the holidays…. maybe you’ve got the career you once thought you wanted or maybe you’ve chosen to focus on the children…yet life still feels flat. Why is that?!
Don’t worry. That feeling of being stuck in a loop is completely normal. So many women feel exactly the same.
The “Old Rulebook” We Were Taught
From childhood, most of us were handed a set of rules about what life should look like:
Work hard
Tick the boxes (career, marriage, family)
Keep everyone else happy
Don’t rock the boat
Don’t prioritise yourself
The idea is that if you follow those rules, you’ll be rewarded with “success”, a happy life with love, stability, money and fulfilment, what more could you ask for! But here’s the truth: the rulebook is broken. In many cases, that simply doesn’t happen.
Why It’s Not Your Fault
Here’s the part I want you to really take in: if you feel stuck, it’s not because you’re lazy, ungrateful or broken. It’s because you’ve been trying to live by rules that don’t actually work.
Nobody taught us how to really understand ourselves (our gifts, passions, values, desires) and how life works (so understand the purpose of life, the aim of challenging situations, how to navigate your way out of negative emotions). Without that, it’s no wonder so many of us wake up one day feeling restless, empty or lost.
A New Rulebook for Life
Here’s what I discovered after my own breakdown, many many self help books and a commitment to sorting myself out:
Each of us has a blueprint which gives us a combination of gifts, desires, values and life lessons which is completely unique. When we live in alignment with that blueprint and understand the deeper rules of life properly, life feels amazing. It feels joyous, fulfilling, passionate, abundant, easy…
The change that you need to make isn’t about throwing away your whole life and upending everything. It’s about compassionately understanding yourself so you can honour your own feelings. It’s about understanding life on a deeper level so you have the conviction to make decisions that align with your true self. It’s about educating others so we can all walk this new path together rather than us all feeling stuck. Just think of the role model you want to be for your children.
So, What Can You Do Right Now?
If you’re feeling stuck, try this great first exercise:
Grab a pad and pen
Write down what parts of life feel heavy, draining or flat. Be really honest
Then write what lights you up, even in the tiniest of ways (a text to a friend, an enjoyable drive or view, a creative hobby).
Ask yourself: What would life look like with more of the second list and less of the first?
That’s the start of alignment. And once you’ve had even a taste of it, you’ll see how much better life can feel.
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
This is the work I do with women every day: helping you move from stuck and restless to clear, free, happy and fulfilled.
If you’re ready to stop spinning in circles and finally see a way forward, my Clarity & Freedom Session is the perfect place to start.
Because you deserve a life that doesn’t just look good on paper but one that feels amazing in your heart and soul too.
Love Abbie x